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Divorce and Family disputes are at a raise in India and the problem is couples don’t want to solve their problems but are willing to part away without giving a second chance to their relationship. I once heard a comment “Love at First Sight and Divorce at First Fight” which seems to be true these days. In the last couple of years there are multiple instances where women are losing on the alimony claims / maintenance from husband post-divorce. Lawyers arguing and courts agreeing that a well-qualified wife and capable to earn need not fall back on the husband to claim maintenance and the trend seems to be increasingly alarming.
The point of concern is the human angle, women are different than men in many ways, although they are tough enough to face the challenges of time it is practically impossible to simply rule in the favour of husband when the wife is not working and carries no means of income at the time of divorce, first of all the plight in India is women leave their parental home and virtually all relationship ties are killed in the name of kanyadaan ceremony ( a ritual where the kanya (girl) is donated in charity to husband) and the parents bid a good bye to the girl stating now your husband’s home is your home, you will live and die there also we are no more your parents you need to accept your husband’s parents as your parents blah…blah…blah… and then the married women is subjected to various atrocities which push them to seek divorce. The tradition, culture and social stigmas of divorce haunt women more in than men, some cases the judgement in favor of husband have an aftermath making life of divorced women more miserable.
I did some research and gathered statistics of unemployment rate in India that has shot up to a five-year high of 5 per cent in 2015-16, with the figure significantly higher at 8.7 per cent for women as compared to 4.3 per cent for men, says a report by Labour Bureau. According to the fifth annual employment-unemployment survey at all-India level, about 77 per cent of the households were reported to be having no regular wage/salaried person. In rural sector, unemployment rate is 5.1 per cent whereas in urban sector, the rate is 4.9 per cent. The figure was significantly higher among females compared to males. In urban areas, female unemployment rate was estimated to be 12.1 per cent at pan-India level compared to 3.3 per cent for males. The survey was conducted across all states and union territories during April 2015 to December 2015. A total sample of 1,56,563 households were covered in the survey – 88,783 households in the rural sector and 67,780 in the urban sector.
One very important argument I wish to make to my readers is the importance of siting the facts while filing the maintenance and divorce suits, not all cases are ruled against women, but only those where certain key points are not highlighted why the maintenance is being claimed. An example to quote from one of the cases where the Mumbai Family Court rejected the claim was because the petitioner contended that the respondent is a successful businessman and is doing business not only in India but also in Dubai and other countries, and that his total income per month is more than Rs. 15 lakhs, and therefore considering the status of her husband, she prayed for grant of maintenance of INR 2 lakhs per month. The Court relied on Mamta Jaiswal v. Rajesh Jaiswal, 24th March 2000, a ruling by Madhya Pradesh high court, where it was held that “well qualified wife is not entitled to remain as an idle and claim maintenance from her husband”. Now such claims are bound to be rejected… instead if certain facts be strengthened on the current lifestyle of the wife cannot be maintained and her monthly expenses are way beyond INR 2 Lakhs that include rent, home and household expenses, cost of maids / domestic help, cook, driver, health expenses, commutations, loans, parents illness, child and other commitments etc… so all boils down to how things are represented.
I wish to end this blog with a small story on the importance of communication with an anecdote which goes like this
“A blind boy sat on the steps of a building with a hat by his feet. He held up a sign which said: “I am blind, please help.” There were only a few coins in the hat. A man was walking by. He took a few coins from his pocket and dropped them into the hat. He then took the sign, turned it around, and wrote some words. He put the sign back so that everyone who walked by would see the new words. Soon the hat began to fill up. A lot more people were giving money to the blind boy. That afternoon the man who had changed the sign came to see how things were. The boy recognized his footsteps and asked,
“Were you the one who changed my sign this morning? What did you write?”
The man said, “I only wrote the truth. I said what you said but in a different way.”
I wrote: “Today is a beautiful day but I cannot see it.”
Both signs told people that the boy was blind. But the first sign simply said the boy was blind. The second sign told people that they were so lucky that they were not blind. Should we be surprised that the second sign was more effective?
Life is something similar in the courts too… it all depends on how strong your arguments are and evidence is. If you enjoyed this post do comment, like and share, feel free to reach me at mail@lawyersonia.com
